Blowing out someone else’s candle will not make yours shine brighter!

”Be an encourager, the world has plenty of critics already”. 

Throughout life, we will always encounter people who will attempt to tear us down and rupture our spirit.

There was a period when I let this negativity ruffle my feathers and upset me. I allowed peoples actions to influence how i felt. Thi

What I didn’t comprehend, is that we are in control of our own emotions and whether we are going to allow that toxic person make us feel negative about ourselves.

Talk to someone who cares 

Often, we are embarrassed that someone has criticized us or made us feel horrible so we keep all these cruel opinions to ourselves. Why verbalize something so appalling again? But by sharing these insecurities with someone who genuinely cares can support you and diminish how you judge yourself.

It can be extremely therapeutic to speak openly about these lousy times with a close friend. Scientific research even proves that a good moan and groan accompanied by a glass of wine and a good friend can reduce stress levels 🙂 . Who am I to argue with science?!

Erase the negative people 

I observed how incredible it was to be around genuine people. I was more upbeat and felt better in myself. Without toxic people in your life you ultimately flourish. You don’t need that friend who is going to betray you, you don’t need someone who is going to unload all their negativity onto you, you don’t need an individual who is only going to make contact when it suits them! . Frequently, it is difficult to eliminate these destructive people from your life, but these are the relationships that impose negative feelings so for self-growth it is imperative .

People who are sincere will not aim to dishearten or depress you. You only get one life and you deserve to spend it with the people who make you feel good about yourself. Unfriend, unfollow and unfasten from all the negative individuals 😉 .

You are YOU!

Always remember who you are. Occasionally, we can focus on the actions of others towards us or their negative words. Don’t disregard who you are as a person, everything you’ve done and the qualities you have. Your mistakes, successes or goals do not define you. Other peoples toxic actions towards you is a reflection of how horrible they are, it’s not a reflection of you.

Say what?!

Always listen to your emotions. If these emotions are suppressed they will fester inside us. Unconsciously these suppressed emotions will affect us throughout daily lives.
I never addressed any of the emotions I developed when people were critical towards me. I didn’t realise how the criticism made me feel, I just aimed to improve myself each time. To get over this need for appraisal from others I had to realise how the criticism made me feel. I had to allow all the suffering to vent in order to heal the pain.
Instead of suppressing these emotions learn to be kind to yourself and work through it. Do people still criticize me? Yes. Do I let it bother me? No.

Appreciate.
Appreciate yourself. Set aside 15 minutes to appreciate certain things about yourself. Make this a daily ritual. It can be as insignificant as going for a jog or remembering to water your flowers! As long as you are conveying gratitude. We should not just appreciate ourselves when we achieve goals or reach milestones, the little things matter too.

Merci!

Thank yourself! Thank yourself for never giving up! Thank yourself for striving through difficult times! Thank yourself for coping!

 

As I approach each new day, encounter new people and engage in new activities I always remind myself who I am and who I’ve become.

If you allow other peoples negativity to characterize who you are by what they do or what they say, you are ultimately offering them authority to dictate your feelings. Life becomes easier when you delete the negative people from it 🙂 .

Cleaning my babies!

Cleaning makeup brushes is one of those tedious tasks I dread. I tend to leave all my brushes until my entire collection resemble the colours of the rainbow! I attempt to give a brisk wash after each use with Freedom ‘Brush Cleanser’. This product is extremely affordable (£5.00 from Superdrug) and convenient, but nothing beats the ritual of deep cleansing brushes (especially when MAC ‘Rule’ is your faithful daily colour 😕 ).

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Freedom ‘Pro Studio antibacterial Brush Shower’

I have been searching for varying cleansing methods that do not leave any residue of product on my beloved babies <3 . After many experimental trials (and foundation stained towels) I think I have the perfect combination.

  • Coconut oil – this product is a gem, I honestly use it for everything from cooking to skincare.
  • Baby shampoo
  • Exfoliating glove

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Step One

I first melt the coconut oil into a liquid by heating it for a few seconds in the microwave. Then, I massage the oil into the bristles of the brush to break down the product. The coconut oil will also condition the brush fibers.

Step Two

Once the makeup brushes are covered in oil, I then add one – two drops of baby shampoo. I add this to rinse out any excess product. Baby shampoo is the best option as it is extremely gentle. I use warm water to make a lather.

Step Three

Pop the exfoliating mitt on one hand and massage the brush around in circular motions. The rough texture of the mitt will ensure no product will be left. RINSE THOROUGHLY! I find this method with the exfoliating mitt is extremely convenient as opposed to using just hands. *Tip* always, always, always have the brush facing down during the cleansing process. If water gets into the ferrule the glue may be softened and the brush head could detach 🙁 .

Step Four

Then, place the brushes on a towel placed on a flat surface and let them dry for 24 hours. Brushes will get damaged if they are placed facing up in a brush holder before they are fully dry.

Easy Peasy 🙂 

Now that the brushes are squeaky clean the face painting process can commence again!

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My Golden Goddess Products

I am a tan goddess. A golden (ahem dark) glow is my trademark! I am always on the scope for the ‘perfect tan’ so I am constantly experimenting. I would have a natural base tan throughout the year, but I always like to enhance it. I decided to compile a list of my holy grail tanning products, especially as we enter into those sunnier days.

Cocoa Brown 1 Hour Tan Mousse (Dark)

I believe this product is a total revolution to the beauty market. I apply a blob of the mousse to my tanning mitt and begin the tanning procedure. It is so easy to work with and dries instantly. My skin is always a gorgeous golden shade when I apply it. There is  no chance that this tan can be applied streaky due to the rich tinted colour. What I adore most about this tan, is that you can pop into the shower after one hour – this is particularly convenient if you have impromptu plans. Even after you shower it off after the hour, the tan continues to develop for a further three hours – amazing!!!! I get an abundance of full body applications from one bottle, so it is extremely purse-friendly (€7.95). Also, the striking pink packaging is fab! This is a stunning product for both the tan novice and tan expert.

Vita Liberata NKD SKN Tinted Tan Mousse (Dark)

I applied this tan a little haphazardly on the first application. I think this was because of the terrifying dark shade that comes out of the bottle. Similar to Cocoa Brown, this tan develops in one hour. I think this is a desirable characteristic in a tanning product. The two day tanning regime pre a night out is now obsolete 😕 . This tan faded beautifully minus the patchiness and skin peeling tendencies that the majority of tans have. Also, this tan is completely odorless, always a plus not smelling like Chinese food 🙂 . Despite my apprehension, the tan didn’t leave me looking mahogany, it developed into a beautiful golden glow. This tan can be purchased for €15.00 but the bottle has numerous full body applications.

Garnier Ambre Solaire Self-tanning dry body mist

This tan is trial and error as it is transparent going on the skin but once you master the technique it’s extremely easy to work with. I loved the convenience of this tan. I could apply it and be cuddled in my bed five minutes later as the tan dries instantly. This tan provides a subtle glow if you like an attractive glimmer. The fruity smell of this tan also awakens my memories of summer 🙂 . This tan does take 6+ hours to develop so I would recommend applying it before bed.

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Chanel Soleil Indentité ‘Golden’

This is honestly one of the nicest facial self-tanners I have used ever! I use this in the shade ‘Golden’. I just apply it like a facial moisturizer and within a few hours a gorgeous  glow develops. The properties of this facial tan are phenomenal. It is so hydrating that I don’t even apply my normal moisturizer underneath (I always apply a serum though as tan is drying). I would usually apply two applications to get my desired colour. I apply the white cream to my face with a clean foundation brush. This comes with a hefty price tag of €37, but it is worth it. If you are searching for a natural facial tan with skin benefits, I can assure you this is it!

St.Tropez Anti-Ageing Gradual Tan

I adore this facial tan. It doesn’t leave my face feeling dehydrated like the majority of facial tans do. It is an extremely light colour so I would suggest layering the tan until you reach the desired colour. It provides a healthy glow, which people will definitely notice. This may be reliant on the anti-aging ingredients, as the skin appears firmer and plumped. I switch between this facial tan and the Chanel.

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Victoria Secret Rockin’ Body Leg Shine

This is my faithful comrade for summer days and nights out. It is a roll on product that provides the skin with a gorgeous luminosity. Even when I apply it, I feel like a VS angel ready to hit the runway 🙂 . I apply it to all areas of my body, especially if I want them to glow. It blurs any nasty imperfections. Also, the packaging will look amazing sitting on your dressing table (YES, I am sad like that 😉 ).  Unfortunately, this little gem does have a dark side 🙁 . DO NOT WEAR WHITE! Don’t look at white, don’t touch white, don’t even think about white! This will turn any white garment into a streaky mess. It is messy, but personally I think it’s totally worth it.

Cocoa Brown Golden Goddess

This is a perfect addition to your tanning routine as it is extremely versatile. It can be used with or without a base tan, it can be applied to a large area with a tanning mitt and it can be used as a highlighter on the face. It dries quickly and won’t leave those undesirable streaks on clothes. I would be quite tanned naturally throughout the year so I use this treasure religiously when I’m flaunting any skin to enhance my glow!

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MAC Rebel dupe alert!

I adore MAC lipsticks but sometimes they can be expensive, especially if you want to experiment with different colours. I love finding purse friendly dupes of my beloved MAC lippies.

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Recently, I picked up Wet’n’Wild ‘Sugar Plum Fairy’ for only €2.95. I confess, I did want to invest in the whole range because of the amazing shade selection, but I showed some self-control 😀 . I was shocked to see how similar this was to the renowned MAC ‘Rebel’.

Both shades are vibrant and extremely long-wearing. I would suggest popping on a lip balm prior to using ‘Sugar Plum Fairy’ as it is extremely matte. The Wet’n’Wild packaging is not as attractive compared to the chicness of MAC bullets, but the amazing affordability forgives this one drawback. The two lipstick shades are wearable and will compliment an abundance of skin-tones. Either lipstick is a staple in any makeup bag!

Even if you are a MAC fanatic this lipstick steal will be hard to refuse <3

Here you can see how identical both lipsticks are on my lips. (Left – Wet’NWild ‘Sugar Plum Fairy’. Right – Mac ‘Rebel’)

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My Skincare Routine

I am constantly on the lookout for new skincare products. I believe good skin sets the base for a flawless makeup application. My morning and evening cleansing routine is like a solemn ceremony that I am devoted to.

My skin is combination to oily. I don’t have any major skin conditions, but hormones can create havoc on my beloved skin at certain times of the month *questions gender* 🙁 ! There’s not a great deal that can be done to prevent this besides remaining stress free and drinking copious amounts of water.

Morning skincare regime

As I am usually in a rush to leave the house in the morning I try to make my morning routine speedy.

  • I cleanse with Soap & Glory ‘Peaches and Clean Deep Cleansing Milk’. Honestly, I could spoon this into my mouth it smells so divine. It is designed to melt away makeup but personally I don’t like using it for that. The creamy texture is easy to work with and leaves skin looking radiant. DO NOT get this in your eyes, it feels like Satan is burning you for all your sins!  This is for all skin types and is a steal at €8.49.
  • I then spray Shu Uemura ‘Depsea Water’ in mint mist on my face to tone it after cleansing. It enriches the skin with amazing minerals. This product looks suspiciously useless but it is the furthermost thing from! It is definitely a cult product with an abundance of uses.
  • I then moisturize my skin with Shiseido ‘Ibuki Enriched Refining Moisturizer’. I use this both morning and evening. It doesn’t make my skin oily, it just provides a nice level of moisture to my skin. This is a well-rounded moisturizer.

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Nighttime skincare regime

  • Each night I use Garnier ‘Micellar Water’ to remove my makeup. I have tried various brands of micellar water but this is my ultimate fave. It doesn’t leave any residue on my skin or leave my skin feeling tight which I found with the majority of other brands.
  • I then cleanse using my Clarisonic paired with Lush ‘Dark Angels Cleanser’. These two products paired together are an amazing duo. Since investing in the Clarisonic I am amazed at how much my skin has improved. This cleanser leaves skin feeling extremely soft. It is especially good if you are prone to those nasty hormonal spots. The only downside is that it’s very messy and I look like I’ve been sleeping in a coal bunker, but hey all in the name of beauty :P.
  • In the evening I use a different toner. I use Shiseido ‘Ibuki Softening Concentrate’. I love the hydration it adds back into my skin after cleansing.
  • Sometimes if my skin is playing up I will use Nip + Fab ‘Glycolic Fix Nightpads’ as a gentle exfoliation. I love this range for problematic skin.
  • I then apply a serum. As I’m putting mileage on my clock I have started using an anti-aging serum. I switch between Clarins ‘Double Serum’ and Estee Lauder ‘Advanced Night Reapir’. Both serums are fab!
  • I only apply eye cream at night as I feel it makes my makeup slide when I use it in the morning. I feel it is important to look after those peepers so investing in a good eye cream is essential. Currently, I am using Emma Hardie ‘Age Support Eye Cream’. It is imperative not to apply eye cream too close to the actual eyeball as milia could form.
  • I then apply my moisturizer (the same cream as used in my morning regime).

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Masks, Scrubs and Peels.

  • Two nights a week I will use Glamglow ‘Supermud’. This is definitely an investment, I am getting everyone hooked on this cult product!
  • Once a week I will use a chemical peel. This clears my pores and prevents scarring from any recent, nasty spots.
  • If I’ve had a late night I will use Glamglow ‘Brightmud Eye Treatment’. I find that these little gems hydrate around my eyes and leave me looking revived in just three minutes.image

I believe by taking care of your skin and using good products it will definitely pay off.

Giving up your sins

I hope you all enjoyed copious amounts of pancakes layered with nutella! Now as we enter Lent, we all vow for the next forty days and nights we’ll give up everything that grants us pleasure in our lives – alcohol, chocolate, spending a hefty amount of money on makeup you do not need *cough*. Some individuals pledge that they will detox their life after all good routines were thrown to the gutter post January. Lent doesn’t have to be a time that you forbid yourself things, it can be an opportunity to start positive daily habits.

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Throughout these past number of months I have altered many aspects of my life and incorporated these little positive alterations into my daily routine. I started my journey to recovery, I completely altered my career path and I eliminated all toxic people/situations from my life. I feel like I am totally content with each unit of my life but lent is just a gentle reminder to keep travelling on this path.

Here are my pointers on detoxing 😀

Meditation 

Clearing your mind from all stress and toxic thoughts will have a positive effect on the body. The morning is the best time to do meditation. It will be a difficult routine to begin with as the busyness of your day will weigh on you – but it will be worth it. It ensures you have a peaceful mind for the day ahead.

Saying Goodbyeeeeee to people pleasing tendencies

I am an extremely accommodating person and tend to abandon my own happiness to ensure those around me are content. This involves going to parties I’ve no interest in or scheduling a dinner date when I really just want to embrace a warm bubble bath. Throughout these next forty days I am going to acknowledge I can’t please everyone and that is totally okay! ”NO” is a complete sentence, no excuses, no giving up your own desires, no attending events that you really want to flake on. Never say yes when inside you’re saying no.

Dry body brushing

By keeping the pores open the buildup of toxins can be released. I do this ritual daily prior to my morning shower. Body brushing stimulates blood flow and removes any dead skin cells (especially if you have been splashing on the tan). The brush motions should move towards your heart so it is in sync with the normal lymphatic flow.

Record your thoughts 

This detox tip seems extremely old skool, but trust me is works! Since the beginning of time every young girl had a beloved diary. By jotting down thoughts and feelings in a journal you are cleansing both your body and mind. It can serve as a tool for self-reflection and physiological purification. Also by writing down certain feelings your mental well-being will greatly improve. I find that it helps me form a better connection with myself.

Get your greens

Leafy green vegetables are amazing at detoxing the body as they are packed with chlorophyll (this pigment aids the cleansing of the digestive tract). These little saviors also work wonders on your skin. Four days a week I incorporate a green smoothie into my daily diet. I pack kale, spinach, celery, cucumber, parsley and a green apple into my blender and voila! You can also buy these smoothies prepared in various health food stores if your’e looking for the easy alternative.

These are just my detox habits, but do what works for your lifestyle. Ultimately just do what makes you feel good about yourself <3 Everyday is a new opportunity to improve your life and start new rituals.

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A hidden gem – Beauty at the Lodge

I adore eyelashes. I honestly believe lushes lashes totally transform a person. I like to experiment with all the varieties that are on the market and try different salons that offer the treatment.

I have always heard amazing reviews about Beauty at the Lodge so I booked myself in for the semi-permanent mink eyelash treatment. The salon has a rural location which is perfect (especially if you are having an intimate treatment).

On arrival, the first thing I noticed was the tranquil ambiance. I was met with this gorgeous aroma.  It was like stepping into a dream as I glanced at the luxurious salon decor.

I opted to go for dramatic mink eye lashes, but the beautician will customize the lash to meet your individual requirements. I was cuddled in a warm blanket and the next thing I remember was drifting to dreamland. My beautician was amazing and extremely gentle. It can be claustrophobic to consciously have your eyes closed for two hours, but I was so relaxed I didn’t even notice. I came away with the most perfect, voluminous eyelashes. This salon was the best experience I have ever had with the mink eyelash treatment. It was pure luxury from beginning to end.

My overall result – STUNNING! Four weeks on from the treatment and my eyelashes were still fluttering like butterflies on a spring day!

Beauty at the Lodge have specialized treatments and use renowned brands such as Guinot. The salon offers an extensive range of treatments that would leave anyone feeling rejuvenated. If you want to step away feeling a princess, I couldn’t recommend this salon more.image

My Inglot Eye Shadows

I have quite a hefty eye shadow collection. My collection mainly focuses on MAC but lately I have been extremely tempted by Inglot eye shadows and their extensive range of colours and textures.

I was first exposed to this fabulous brand while holidaying in Poland. Needless to say I was like a deer exposed to headlights when I first entered the Inglot store! There is an abundance of products and vibrant colours groping you. I picked up a few products excluding eye shadows as I convinced myself I do not need anymore!

A few weeks ago while in Dundrum I gave into temptation and purchased my first Inglot eye shadow palette. How wrong was I telling myself I do not need more?! I opted for colours that I thought varied from my current collection. The empty palette, which will hold 10 eye shadows, is €14.00 and each individual eye shadow is €6.00. Personally I thought this was an amazing price for highly pigmented shadows.

The freedom palettes are empty so you can mix and match your own choice of colours. The palettes are also extremely versatile as any Inglot freedom product can be stored in them – this ranges from eye shadow, lipstick to  blush. The front cover of the freedom palettes are magnetized and extremely sturdy so there’s no fear of your beloved products getting exposed.

The Inglot eye shadow collection has various different finishes. I loved them all equally and thought each one had wonderful colour payoff.

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The selection of colours are amazing especially for the affordable price tag. I couldn’t recommend these shadows enough. Regrettably, I now think I am addicted to Inglot eye shadows 😀